Discouraged Blogger



What a day! I joined a blog group on Facebook. They also have a separate site - Bloggers Like Me So far everyone seems very engaged and supportive. I've been following Twitter pages and blog sites all day. It's a little exhausting, but I do love it. I'm excited about growing in the blog world. There is one thing that bothers me. While searching, reading and following blogs I saw that there are many people who have a ton of followers with many comments. They have a LOT of SUPPORTERS. What disturbs me is that many of those bloggers people don't respond to their post comments and they don't follow people back. I guess some people just like to be seen with many followers to appear to be more popular than they are. All that does is make me go back and UNFOLLOW and DELETE my comments. I can't tell you how many Christian blogs I checked out that didn't return the support to their followers. Some people don't have to option to follow using Google Connect, so I make sure to follow on Bloglovin I haven't been blogging that long, and I know it will take a while to make friends, gain followers and return the love. I feel that we HAVE and do better. Blogging is supposed to be an outlet for ourselves as well as a source of inspiration and motivation for others regardless what the topic or blog style. I don't view it as a popularity contest. I'm not here to gain 1 million followers. I'll be happy with the followers that God blesses me with. I know we all have busy lives. I'm a full-time worker, girlfriend and mother, but I try to show my love to other bloggers.  I don't know. Maybe I'm tripping, but I know I'm not the only one who feels as I do...

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  1. I totally understand where you're coming from. A lot of bloggers forget their humble beginnings when they get a substantial amount of followers and sponsor deals. I think of blogging as a form of expression as well. Just keep going. Don't let someone stop you from being great.

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    1. Lilian, you took the words out of my mouth when you said "humble beginnings". I'm gonna try not to focus on responses so much and make sure I focus on what's important...blogging as my favorite form of expression.

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  2. Don't be discouraged sis. Blogging is also about building real relationships. It's good to comment on others blogs, but let it be sincere, not only for them to follow you back. I know exactly what your speaking of and I have felt the discouragement of someone not returning to my blog. But, that's not what it's really about. Sometimes, bloggers don't get the chance, time, whatever, to come back and comment. Just move on. But if you really like that blog, don't stop because you haven't heard from them. Usually it takes a while to build a relationship.
    Also, don't delete comments. Don't. That makes it seem as though you're really not sincere and just in it for yourself.
    Hope I was able to share some light on the matter.
    Just been around the blogging block a few times.

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    1. Hey Stacie, I delete them out of spite, especially when there is a list of comments from ages ago and they didn't respond to anyone. I see what you're saying though. I don't want it to seem like I comment for selfish reasons, because then I'd turn into those this blog is about and I don't want that. You're right, I guess like any relationship blog relationships take time. I'm working to be patient. Thank You :)

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  3. I agree! Sometimes I do feel that replying to every comment can become a task, especially for a bigger blogger. Thoughtfully answering comments can take all day. So maybe they just can't because of the demand... idk though. I respond to all of mine!

    www.goodlooknout.com

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  4. First, Thank you so much for following me and commenting on my blog!

    Second, If there was a +1 Button on your comments I would click it for Stacie's comment.

    Third, I think it's important to keep in mind that not everyone replies directly to comments. They go visit the blogs of the commenters or email or do something like that, and just like Marie said some of them get tons of comments. I can't even imagine replying to all the comments that some bloggers get, I try to put myself in their shoes before I react to not getting any response from them. I also think that we all get in this situations sometimes, I know I haven't replied to absolutely every comment or post, I try, but I forget or I go visit their page and then read and get caught up and forget to comment back. I think it's important to remember that our lives get busy and blogging isn't life. That's a lesson I learned this summer, the hard way.

    Here are a few verses that may be helpful in this discouragement.

    "In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because,

    “God opposes the proud
    but shows favor to the humble.”
    Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5-6

    "Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without complaint. As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God; whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen." 1 Peter 4: 8-11

    I'm praying for you! I know being discouraged is hard to go through, but God will give you the strength to go through it. In our weakness His power is perfected. Glory to Him forever and ever!

    Love and Blessings to you!
    Lace

    www.chosentheblog.com

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    1. Hey Lacy & Marie! I'm not saying to reply to every comment, but at least acknowledge them. Like for example, leave a comment saying "Thanks for the support/comments. I'm sure people understand that not all comments can be responded to but it does mean something to a reader, at least me, to know the blogger actually pays attention to and appreciates the support they are receiving. Thank you for the scriptures. I LOVE 1 Peter.

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  5. Hi Jasmine, visiting from BCW. Thanks for letting us know about the change in your blog's name and url. While I do understand your frustration with the lack of seemingly reciprocal relationship b/w some bloggers, I remember at one time in blogging journey I was responding to comments via email instead of directly on the blog. Although I no longer do that. I know I don't always think to go back and read someone's reply to me. Blogging came be quite time consuming but I do think it's nice blogging etiquette to visit others when you can. And I found myself not reading some blogs or commenting as much b/c I notice the blogger didn't seem to have a mutual interest in developing a relationship. And then of course there are some blogs I follow that I never comment on but I just like to read.

    Another thing to keep in mind is some people may follow blogs using Feedly, which is my favorite way to keep up to date with blogs.

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    1. Feedly? Is it like Blovin? I'm going to look it up.

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  7. No, you're not the only one who feels this way. But like others have already said, I try not to take it personally. Thanks for following me on Blog Lovin. I followed you back and now I'm adding you to my blog loves as well.

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  8. I can definitely relate to this feeling. I've been blogging for awhile, I've only recently began to take myself seriously and look forward to it's growth. Although I have to sometimes remind myself that I didn't start blogging to become popular, I started blogging because I wanted to share with people and I wanted people to share with me. I am I saying that I wouldn't be super excited if I woke up tomorrow and had an even 50 followers, no, I'd be super excited! I look forward to getting to know you and your blog better. New follower!

    ~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random
    Ms. Naturally Random Blog

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  9. When I first started blogging I felt the same way. I would respond to every comment as fast as I could. That started to take a toll on my personal life. I was doing it even when I was out with friends lol. They were like "Put the phone down already!" Now I take my time. Thanks for connecting on blog lovin. Have a blessed and productive week!

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    1. Yea, I was on my blog this morning and my BF took my phone lol. You have a blessed week as well!!

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  10. Don't feel discouraged remember that its not about the numbers but encouraging someone who finds themselves on your sight I was discouraged about blogging myself. We are now friends and I now follow you.

    God Bless,
    Tamara

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    1. Hi Tamara!!! I was just thinking that I have read a blog post that I didn't comment on but it did have an impact on me. Everything else on the blog was too much for my eyes so I didn't end up following, lol. My goal is definitely to share my stories and encourage others. I'm learning to be humble with blogging.

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  11. I can definitely relate to this feeling. I've been blogging for awhile, I've only recently began to take myself seriously and look forward to it's growth. Although I have to sometimes remind myself that I didn't start blogging to become popular, I started blogging because I wanted to share with people and I wanted people to share with me. I am I saying that I wouldn't be super excited if I woke up tomorrow and had an even 50 followers, no, I'd be super excited! I look forward to getting to know you and your blog better. New follower!

    ~Shan, Ms. Naturally Random
    Ms. Naturally Random Blog

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    1. Hey! I'm stoked with the followers I do have. I was telling my boyfriend at breakfast that I feel SPECIAL! lol, it is a blessing to know that people, even if a few, care enough or find what I post motivating enough to follow.

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  12. I think this feeling is natural and almost every blogger feels this way when they first start out unless of course they blew up overnight. :-) It'll almost be 9 months of blogging for me and I'm just starting to notice more comments. Sometimes it's one, sometimes it's none. It was shared to me that there are lots of people who are true followers but choose not to leave comments at all. At first, I tripped about the numbers but in the end it's a not huge deal. I reply to all of my comments and I could imagine how daunting it would be if the big bloggers replied to every last one. Crazy! You're not alone and there's always support if you need it.

    Mo

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    1. Thank you Mo. I see that it takes time to establish those relationships. Hopefully I'm good enough to everyone so that they'll be supportive of me.

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  13. Well one, welcome to the BLM Girls family! Everyone is very supportive & it's just an all around great group to be in as a blogger. Especially starting out. And I have to agree with you, I hate when I take time out to comment on a post or two and the blogger never follows up. I do my best to respond to each and every comment ever left on any of my sites. It's just common courtesy.

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    1. Yes Laura! Even if it takes me a minute I'll try to respond to everyone or at least as a whole.

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  14. Love your honesty! And I will say I've had some of the same thoughts, but yet we press on right? I think blogging is such a cool way to explore creativity and really reach out to people. I really like your blog so far. Gonna read a bit more... :) Happy Wednesday!

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    1. Thank you Courtney!! Happy Wednesday to you as well!

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